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Clothes Encounters (or, What Low Pants Do
For Your Image?)
By Judith Rasband
While getting gas in my car, my attention
was caught by something about the attendant. Curious, I gathered
all my gumption and asked, “Say, young man, help me understand
something. Why do you choose to wear your pants so low that we get
full view of your yellow print under-pants? What’s your thinking
— your logic?”
“Oh, well they’re comfortable
this way,” he offered with a toss of his hair.
“No they’re not,”
I countered. “I’ve seen you pull and tug at them three
or four times already.”
He rolled his eyes, and re-offered,
“Well, I guess this is the way I’ve always worn them,
since I was a little boy.”
“No it’s not,” I
re-countered. “Your mother dressed you in cute little pants
that came up to your waist. You’ve only been wearing them
this way for the last few years.”
“Well, it’s kinda cool,”
he stammered.
“OK, so help me understand why
waddling around with the crotch of your pants down around your knees
is cool — and exactly what does it mean to be ‘cool’?”
“Uh, being cool is being different
— showing people that I’m different.”
“Different than what? Different
than whom? You look the same as a lot of other kids I see.”
“You know, different than grown-ups,
my dad, and all the old guys.”
“Well, your dad probably wears
his pants around his waist — even tucks his shirt in most
of the time. Is there something bad about that?”
“No, but it’s …”
and his voice trailed off.
“If there’s nothing bad
about wearing your pants around your waist, is there something bad
about wearing them way below your hips? I read about another kid
who said, ‘To be cool means I have to do something bad’.”
“Yeah, well kinda,” he
agreed haltingly.
Now he’s at a loss as to how
to explain or excuse his behavior and he’s not about to tell
me his real reasoning. But perhaps he’s formed no real reason.
Perhaps he’s never really thought about it. He’s just
blindly going along with the crowd.
“I know,” I offered, “it’s
the trend among a lot of boys and men. But why do you think it’s
the trend?” I queried.
“Uh, I don’t know,”
he murmured. “I never thought about it.”
Now we’re beginning to get somewhere,
so I explained the source of the look.
“The look trickled up from street
kids and hip-hop celebrities, copying the look of prison inmates.
Can you guess why prisoners go around
with their pants hanging down?”
“Uh, no,” he continued
to murmur, shrugging his shoulders — but by now he was mildly
interested.
“Historically, prisoners have
their belts taken away from them, for two reasons. One, so they
don’t hang themselves with it. And two, so they can’t
escape. A man can’t run very far, very fast, holding up his
pants. Is that who you’re trying to look like — a prison
inmate?”
“No, not at all,” was the
solid answer at this point.
“So tell me, what do you think
you communicate to the people who see you?” and he looked
at me quizzically. “What are you saying about yourself?”
I continued. “That you don’t know how to pull up your
pants and fasten a belt? That you’re so brave ‘cause
you dare to wear them that low? That you’re cool? That you’re
a little bit bad? Do you think people want to come in here and get
gas from a guy who’s a little bit bad? Where’s this
look going to get you in life?”
“Uh, I dunno, I guess never thought
about it that way.”
“Well, start thinking.”
Ó2007 Conselle L.C. Conselle
L.C. Institute of Image Management • 7052 University
Station • Provo, UT 84602 • 801/224-1207 • FAX
801/226-6122 • www.conselle.com
• judith@conselle.comjudith@conselle.com
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